Financial Hardships and Marriage

Dear Friends,

This is to anyone who maybe needs this.

What does love look like when financial stress is really high?

I looks the same as when financial stress isn't very high. We get up in the morning and say to each other, "I love waking up to you." We go along with our morning and hug each other a few times as we pass by. When you leave in the morning I give you a kiss. Then you go out the front door. Then I run to you again to give you another hug.

A lot of reassurance.

Is our financial stress because of bad decisions? Yes. Is it easy to blame? Very. Is it right to blame? No. The other night I needed to get away into nature so I could sort through my feelings of blame. I went. I walked for a while. I found a rock by the water. I sat. I cried. I asked Heavenly Father to take the anger feelings away. I cried some more. Then I got up, shook off the dirt, and said to myself, "I am not a victim. I still choose to be together. Is this enough to ruin our eternal family for? NEVER."

I understand why finances are a huge reason for a lot of divorces. But here is the thing. Finances are NOT the reason. Choosing to see the most important relationship in your life with contempt and anger are the reason. Choosing to blame is the reason. Choosing to be farther apart because of it is the reason.

Is it hard to love someone when it was their poor choices that put you in a bad situation? Yes. It is hard. Is it still right to love that person no matter what? Yes. No matter what.

No matter what.

Keep your chin up. Keep praying. Keep hoping for better days. Keep eyes on the future and the future of hope and faith. The future is as bright as your faith.

Choose to work together inside of the struggle. It is hard. But it is possible.

I love you. I love you forever.

Your Wife