Hiding

Dear Handsome,

I am so grateful that you are a man who doesn't 'hide'.

We have been having a hard time in the last little while with sales. It has caused us to become behind on rent and a lot of other things. You were having a really hard time with it the other day. We started talking about it and the discouragement that you have been feeling.

I was sitting at the kitchen table and you were sitting on the computer chair, about 5 feet away from me. You looked at me with sincere eyes and just said, "I am so sorry. I can't believe that we are back here again." Because of being serial entrepreneurs, financial heartache and hardship are something that come and go. We don't have the life style of working 9-5 and enjoying a steady paycheck. When we have good months, they are great, but then it is very easy for us to have bad months, sometimes many in a row. This life style is not for the faint of heart, that is for sure.

Anyway, as I was looking at you I felt the spirit tell me to go and sit at your feet. So I went, knelt down by your feet and put my head on your lap. Then I just said, "I am just so grateful that you are not a man who 'hides'." You looked at my inquisitively, then I just told you something that my dad has told me about being a man.

In the garden of Eden, right after Adam and Eve eat of the fruit, then hear the Lord coming back to talk with them, the FIRST thing Satan says to them is, "Look you are naked... quick HIDE!". Dad has said a few times that one of the worst things for a man is to be 'exposed'... especially to feel shame. And a man's first reaction is to hide from it. To hide from the world and hopefully cover up any shame he has from mistakes he has made.

But, the Lord then teaches a very good lesson... After Adam and Eve 'hide', the Lord comes and says, "Where are you?". The Lord wants to see us, he wants to know us, he doesn't want us to hide from him. Same thing with the world. He doesn't want us to hide from our mistakes or hide from being 'exposed'. On the contrary, usually the best thing you can do is to face it. Just like the phrase says of, "Face it like a man."

For a man, the most important thing that can be done is to NOT hide. Face it. Stand up and be strong, not hiding from whatever it is that has attacked you.

So now, back to when we were sitting at the chair. I told you this lesson that my dad had taught me about what it is to be a man and how I can support you the best as your wife. You have never hidden from our problems. Even when it has been hard for you, you have done what has needed to be done and taken care of us. I have NEVER had to worry about facing it. You have always done so, even when it meant that you had to go and ask for help. It is a lot easier for a woman to go ask for help because people take pity on us, but it is hard for a man because there is always an element of shame involved.

But you haven't hidden, you are a man who faces the issues and I am so glad that you do. Even when we are having a hard time, I know that you will always be strong and 'face it like a man'.

I love you,

Your Lover